I have been around reading, but I have not posted in a little while. My life is in limbo again. I mentioned previously my grandma was not doing well, and my family mentioned me caring for her. That never came to fruition. However, she had a heart attack last week, so I was asked again.
Trust me, I want to care for my grandmother. However, my family can be very wishy washy. I spent two days making general plans and cancelling subbing dates in April. I wanted a few weeks to meet subbing, mystery shopping and dental obligations, so I said I could start after April 6th. My grandma is in rehab for minimum of two weeks anyhow. Now they are talking three days a week. It is 75 miles each way for me, and my car is a 2010. I would prefer the whole week every other week if I am not doing it full time. My uncle said he would get back to me next week. The pay would be more than fair, but I don't dare budget a dime of it until it actually happens. I am also NOT giving up my apartment at this point.
I spent last week staying with my mom while my dad went to Florida. That was frustrating because my mother does not do anything to care for herself anymore. She has the capability for the most part. She constantly falls in the house. However, she will not do any form of exercise and refuses physical therapy. I was so mentally and physically (I deep cleaned the house) exhausted when I got home Sunday. I slept through the night the last two nights which is very rare for me.
Financially, it was good. I had use of my dad's car. I subbed half days and did $250 dollars worth of mystery shops in those 9 days. My dad covered all groceries and gas. He also handed me a $100.
On a positive note, my daughter is coming in from NC for the weekend to visit my grandma in rehab. I will ride down to the Detroit area with my oldest son who is my neighbor. I can't wait to see my daughter and meet her husband (After a short courtship, they got married in September).
My youngest son did very well in basic training and is now in tech school in Mississippi. He is flourishing in the Air Force and really enjoying it. He also broke up with his controlling girlfriend which was a huge relief for everyone!
I will post another update with a new budget once the plans are concrete.
Life in Limbo
March 13th, 2018 at 12:15 pm
March 13th, 2018 at 12:20 pm 1520943640
I think if you are to care for your grandmother, you have a right to organize a schedule that suits your needs. Hopefully the compensation will include wear and tear and gas for your vehicle.
I hope your grandmother recovers well soon.
March 13th, 2018 at 03:58 pm 1520956728
I hope you take the time to work out the logistics. The arrangement as outlined will need an incredible amount of flexibility to permit you to continue on the sub board and support mystery shopping activities in other locations.
150 miles an oil change & filter and fluids reviewed every 20 days, plus air filter every 3rd change. Tires only last 60K - 70K, miles and the other 2010 car parts will give way. What are your plans June - August when school is not in session?
March 13th, 2018 at 04:47 pm 1520959624
March 13th, 2018 at 06:55 pm 1520967347
March 14th, 2018 at 03:33 pm 1521041580
I'm sorry about your mom and her unwillingness to help herself. My parents felt if medicine didn't cure it, then there was nothing to be done. I'm trying to be more proactive.