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Mom is Gone

October 14th, 2018 at 03:05 am

My mother was removed from the ventilator at 1:20 PM Friday afternoon. We were shocked she didn't pass within minutes. My oldest son (youngest had to get back on road for rest of trip before heading to Germany), daughter and I stayed the night. My oldest son finally went home with his family early afternoon yesterday. The kids needed to get back to some normalcy.

My dad left at six. He was exhausted. He said to call when we saw the vital signs deteriorate more. He lives within 5 minutes of the hospital. My daughter had went to my car to get something, and the monitor went haywire. I texted her to get right back and called my dad. He did not make it in time, but she did. We held my mom's hands as she took her last breaths. She died exactly one month before her 70th birthday.

It was a brutal last few days, and I am so very tired. I did sleep last night out of exhaustion. My daughter is going home tomorrow. I will spend the day with her and my dad. I will take one more day off school and go home tomorrow after taking her to the airport.

My dad is sad but doing fine overall. My mom has had health problems for a few years now. I honestly think he is relieved.

We had a family brunch yesterday while my daughter and my cousin were in town in honor of my mom. She didn't want a funeral service.

My grandma is having major behavior issues lately so we have decided not to tell her for now. It's tough thinking of keeping this from her. However, we don't want to move her again if she becomes too out of control for this facility.

Anyhow, I wanted to post an update. I appreciate all the nice comments and your support on the last post.

18 Responses to “Mom is Gone”

  1. Wink Says:

    I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending you comfort and peace during such a difficult time.

  2. creditcardfree Says:

    My condolences for your loss, Laura. May the good memories sustain you in your grief.

  3. MonkeyMama Says:

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Hang in there.

  4. Smallsteps Says:

    I am sorry for your loss it is always difficult even when the person had health problems.

  5. Kelly Campbell Says:

    I am sorry to hear that your mother has passed.

  6. rob62521 Says:

    Although not totally unexpected, it is still a shock. My heart goes out to you and yours for your loss.

  7. starfishy Says:

    so, so sorry for the loss of your mom - losing a parent is really difficult on so many levels. thinking of you.

  8. snafu Says:

    Condolences, sending prayers for strength and peace

  9. ceejay74 Says:

    So sorry for your loss. This sounds unbelievably tough for your family. Glad to hear everyone seems to be coping as well as could be hoped for.

  10. mumof2 Says:

    Sorry for your loss, but know she has lived a full life..sending thoughts and prayers to your family during this time

  11. CB in the City Says:

    I am so sorry, Laura.

  12. LuckyRobin Says:

    I'm sorry, Laura. I've lost my dad, but I don't even want to think about losing my mother. (((HUGS))) I think TV does a disservice sometimes, making us think that people will just quickly die once taken off a respirator. Unless they are paralyzed it often takes several hours of waiting. Hang in there. Surround yourself with the people that love you. Seek support when you need it. And go on.

  13. frugaltexan75 Says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. {{hugs}}

  14. Thrifty Ray Says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. I remember well the exhaustion you described when I lost each of my parents. Hugs during this difficult time.

  15. Out of the Dark Says:

    My condolences. I'll pray for the repose of her soul.

  16. PatientSaver Says:

    I'm so sorry.

  17. livingalmostlarge Says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers for your family.

  18. VS_ozgirl Says:

    So sorry for your loss, sending you my condolences

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